#6 You Are Enough
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You are enough.
You are worthy.
Before you were born, your soul existed in the Universe, maybe you were a star lighting up the galaxy. Then through a series of events, your soul was chosen to manifest as a foetus in your mother’s womb. The physical body grew and then was born. Kicking and screaming into the world.
You were the culmination of your mother and father’s hopes and dreams, assuming you were a wanted child. Even if you were unwanted, you were still the manifestation of Universal energy. That’s what makes you special.
You are enough.
You are worthy.
I saw a quote on Instagram, yes one of those inspirational artsy ones, that said something like “You are not a body that has a soul, you are a soul that has a body”. I like this, there’s comfort in it. A soul is eternal, it never dies. Our bodies will age and die but our soul energy will continue to exist in another form.
Why then do we seek comfort and satisfaction outside of us? I know humans are gregarious by nature, we need people around us, we group together in tribes and families. There’s an African proverb that says:
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”
I like the sentiment that this conveys, but what if those around us diminish us? What if they are toxic? Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why do we call our partners “the other/better half”? I’ve never liked that. I’d rather people know that they’re enough, that they’re already fully formed wholes and that when they meet another who is equally whole then the union becomes even bigger.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”, this can be either inspiring or horrifying depending on who you spend most of your time with. Look around. Are the people you’ve surrounded yourself with truly on your team? Do they have your back as much as you have theirs? Do they help you grow? Do they keep you grounded? Or do they judge and criticise you? Do they categorise you and keep you boxed in?
This is where you find out who your true people are. Start making positive changes in your life and just see what the comments are. Who is delighted for you, who is judging and wary? The sad thing is, the ones you thought always had your back, might suddenly feel threatened by this “new” you. They might realise that your growth is too much to handle.
That’s fine. I’ve developed a habit of letting people come and go. It’s hard, really hard. If you take full ownership of your life and relationships, when you start showing up for yourself on a daily basis, you start teaching people how to treat you based on how you treat yourself. And if you used to be self-conscious and overly critical of yourself, then that’s what you attract from others.
You are enough.
You are worthy.
Once you realise all those things you were looking for outside - validation, acceptance, kindness, love etc, were already within your grasp. You need less. You want less, because you are enough. More than enough. The relationships you’ll attract once you realise this and start broadcasting this loud and wide, they’ll be happier, healthier, more balanced, seem more effortless than those hard work friendships you had before.
What if these people are family/spouses/long term partnerships? It’s tough, I know from experience that once you realise that a relationship isn’t working then it’s difficult to fix. Try to fix it if you still feel there’s hope and value for all parties. If it’s making you miserable, then chances are it’s making everyone miserable. Let it go. By doing you, that’s not selfish, looking after yourself is not egotistical it’s survival, it’s self-preservation. Live to fight another day.
It doesn’t have to be dramatic, you don’t have to storm out. Sometimes just letting go is the kindest thing that can be done. Once others see your true value, after you’ve taught them how you want to be treated, they’ll come back and the relationship will thrive. If they go and never come back then wish them all the best and know that you didn’t push them away. They chose to step out of your life.
Once you start nurturing yourself properly. You realise that your Being is like a flickering candle. It’s your duty to keep the flame alight, no-one else’s. Look after your flame and the light will grow and radiate outwards. Some will be warmed by your light and pull closer, others will be repelled as you may be too bright for them - that’s fine. It’ll all be fine.
You are enough.
You are worthy.
Love
LP x
